styling

You Do You

I didn’t know this most of my life. I didn’t know! How did I not know? The laws I thought were written in ink were imaginary. The rules I pressed so deep in my mind were nonsense.

No one told me!

Though, I’m not sure I would have listened anyway. Someone could have shouted, “You can do whatever you want!” “Stop caring so much.” “No one really should care…”

But confidence.

I’ve only realized in the last few years that no one (should) care what you’re wearing. You should just do what makes you happy. You should wear what makes your heart sing. You should go where your dreams seem to explode into bigger. Better.

“Life is too short to wear boring clothes.” That was a line I saw printed on Lularoe marketing once or twice. And it’s true. I wish I had known. It’s too short to spend three more seconds caring what other people think about your new shoes or dress or the new thing you want to do with your hair.

I cared entirely too much about other’s opinions as a kid, adolescent, young adult. Too much. I wore a jacket to cover my arms. There was so much shame. So much concern for others stupid opinions that were not my concern. Who cares what 15 year old boys think anyway? Gosh… life is too short.

I hope I can teach my girls and help other people feel confident in themselves to not give one ounce of concern next time that small awful voice creeps up to tell you others may laugh or judge you. That small voice is a lie giving credit to someone who has not part in the conversation of YOUR LIFE.

Oh, tangents. Confidence.

I’m convinced when I boldly wear anything with confidence, when I feel good, I know I can rock whatever I want. When I’m complete as I am, I can do impossible things. In case no one has said it to you, and you’re ready to listen… You do you, boo.

life, styling

Connections and chit chat

There’s a big difference between a genuine connection with real conversation and chit chat. However, chit chat can lead to a nice connection. A moment of humanity linking two people. I am all for that.

Today, I reached out to a couple people via messenger though I could have easily commented on their content on social media. The comments seem to lack connection and intentionality in communicating. Do you feel that way? I went to reply to a post and found myself tearing up because I was touched that person had that kind of impact on me. I couldn’t do the injustice on connection of dropping that one liner in a comment and walking away. I engaged. This person and I needed to connect on this. It was a serious matter, end of life stuff for family, that’s not always quick comment stuff… right?

I’m not saying I need to personally message everyone on social and start conversing about their lunch selections, but when friends are hurting, when they’re asking for prayers for a loved one, when they’re sharing personal battles, I chose to connect today, and I’m glad I did. I could use that virtual hug sometimes. The pause that someone intentionally opened the door to hug me and wait. Instead of side hug and run on the interwebs. Is it all the same to you?

In terms of chit chat… today a barista complimented my earrings. I appreciated it. I love these rainbow dangles. She asked where she could find them. I told her I sold them. I needed to hurry up and post them! I did. But we ended up connecting over quirky, fun accessories because the interaction didn’t need to be rushed.